Negatives don't exist.

There is no such thing as "No __(Something)__" in the real world. It is purely a construct of the mind. You won't be able to find ideas like "No respect", "No trust", "No luck" anywhere but in somebody's mind. You won't be able to actually observe the lack of any beingness, doingness, or havingness around you. There are all kinds of things one can observe in the world. Not one of them is a negative. The world is full of things that are there. Ideas about what ought to be there, but isn't, relate to people's mental and emotional responses to what IS there.

Negation is also just a mental construct. And one that only seems to make any sense for the conscious portion of the person. The sub-conscious ignores negation.

If you try hard NOT to think of an elephant you probably aren't very successful. The only way of understanding it is to start out by thinking of an elephant and then think "That's what I won't think about". But you already did of course. It is an elephant regardless of whether you are saying yes or no to it.

If you concentrate on what you don't want, you are feeding energy to it. It doesn't matter if you desire or fear something, you will start attracting it just the same. If you focus on something with an emotional intensity, you will magnetize it towards you.

This is often very puzzling for clients to understand. Very often they will come and ask you to get rid of something for them. They want "No Anger" or "No Failure" or something like that. However, that doesn't work. Opposing their existing behavior will just make it worse. They will need to accept what they already have, and only then can it transform. Trying to negate it will just energize it further.

Don't oppose anything the client is or does. Polarizing her further is not going to help. You are trying to help her get beyond the polarization.

Fear is an example of feeding what one doesn't want. Being afraid of X has about the same effect as saying "I really want X". The difference is only mental gymnastics, the sub-conscious doesn't care.

Convert negatives to positives when you can. If the client doesn't want something, what does she want instead? If she thinks she has a no-something there, find out what she actually perceives there that she is labeling that way.

In a similar vein, there is no such thing as a lack in the real world. Any perception of lack is generated in the person's mind. Whatever is there is there. A "lack" is not something that can be there. Which makes it a sticky issue. It is difficult to handle something that isn't there.

People tend to get in trouble with things that aren't there. When people operate out of symbols in their minds, and when they think that the symbols are real, then all kinds of complexities can ensue. One puts labels on phenomena one encounters, and then one forgets the actual phenomena and thinks that the label is what happened.

Transformational processing is intended to clear up misunderstandings like that. We sort out the relationships between what is actually there and what one represents in one's mind. We clear up the semantic responses.

If I look at my wallet and I have the idea that there are supposed to be some green pieces of paper with numbers in it, and there aren't, then I might put the label on the situation: "No Money". That is not what is there, however. "No money" is not a thing, there is no existence to it. What is there in my hand is a wallet.

Maybe the idea of "No Money" will motivate me to go and do something productive. Then, this labeling is probably a useful thing to do. But it might also make me depressed and make me put some more limiting labels on myself. I am a "loser" because I have "no money" in my pocket, and therefore "I won't be successful with anything".

Whereas if I would have started from a more positive angle I would have gone in a different direction. "There is a wallet. Hm, let me see, what should I put in that? Some money, maybe. Let me find somewhere to get money ..."

Negation is one of the key things for the process facilitator to resolve.

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