Session Indications

One of your main jobs is to notice what the client is doing, and take action accordingly. There is a great range in what you might notice and what you might do. However, to simplify things for training purposes, we can divide the phenomena into what we can call "good" or "bad" indications. These are certain phenomena you can see or hear that tell you if things are going well or not.

What is considered a good or bad indication depends on what we are doing at the time. If the client is crying at session end we probably didn't finish right, so it is a bad indication. If she is crying at session start it means that she is already into something to work on, so that is a good indication. If she is crying at every session start, we might revise it to a bad indication, though.

No bad indication will be a problem if you respond to it and find out what is going on. They mainly tell you that you need to take some kind of different action. A good indication tells you that you are probably already doing the right thing.

A likely action to take is given for each bad indication.

General bad indications:

- get what the client is holding back that was almost found out
upset with you
- find what communication you didn't notice or acknowledge,
or what you did or said that offended her.
- find out what she is really interested in
- find if anything has continued for too long, or if it is lack of sleep.
not talking
- find what she ran into that she didn't feel like communicating,
or find what you said or did that made her feel like not talking.

General good indications:

talking to you
talking about her situation
smiling, laughing
friendly towards you

Bad indications at session start:

complaining about previous sessions with you or other facilitators
- find out what she didn't reveal in those sessions
Demanding explanations of what you are going to do

Good indications at session start:

volunteering the results in her life of what you did in last session
offering something new she would like to work on

Bad indications during a session:

talking about you
- find something about herself she wants to handle.
talking about the room
- get back to a subject she is interested in.
changing subject
- make sure you are handling the most alive subject available
answering without looking inside
- persuade or trick her into getting her actual answer,
not just intellectual clatter

Good indications during a session:

showing emotion about what is being addressed
talking about what she experiences

Bad indications at session end:

sad, angry, or apathetic
- find out about what
still introverted
- finish the process

Good indications at session end:

talking about the future

You can never quite be sure what a certain behavior means, unless you check into it. A person might cry because she is happy, or she might stop talking because she is having a great spiritual experience. The external indication gives you an idea, but you always need to investigate further before you draw any conclusions. The general handling to anything that looks like a bad indication is to ask what is going on. The general handling to anything that looks like a good indication is to continue with whatever you were doing.

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